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  1. about 13 hours ago on Baldo

    Except that we hardly ever see her using a device – she is nearly always either reading a book or playing. And even if she were using a device to read, that’s not a bad thing.

    While I have read the studies claiming cell phones are as addictive as cigarettes, there is a lot of bad science and assumptions involved. If you ask someone whether they will have a hard time being away from their phone, they will say yes. But it pales compared to substance withdrawal, and there is no real attempt to measure the difference in difficulty. And even if cell phones were just as addicting as cigarettes, there is a lot less harm done by a cell phone addiction than a smoking addiction.

  2. about 13 hours ago on Baldo

    This is extremely gross even if it is an allegory comparing cell phone addiction to cigarette addiction. It’s even worse if she is actually trying smoking.

  3. about 13 hours ago on Arlo and Janis

    I have a friend who constantly declutters and downsizes. She is always keeping things ready in case her husband is transferred to a new location (he’s in the military). I don’t think it will help much in the end. Most of what you have to pack you use in daily life. It’s not really the clutter that gets you (though unpacking clutter is tough enough that lots of people leave it in boxes).

  4. about 13 hours ago on Arlo and Janis

    No. They planned one and even had a date set, but cancelled in favor of a get-together with the kids. I forget why.

  5. 1 day ago on Ink Pen

    How about the Unbelievable Captain Victorious. You can leave to the reader what about him is beyond belief.

  6. 1 day ago on Heart of the City

    I wouldn’t suggest she trust his word on anything yet, but it’s clear he cares about her at some level. Mutual caring would be a good start.

  7. 3 days ago on Arlo and Janis

    RE: “You obviously have not seen a parent declining and in denial about it.” Some of us have seen this and still value our parents’ rights to make their own choices.

    I have absolutely seen various levels of parental decline. My mother-in-law should ideally have been getting assistance in the home or assisted living five years ago. By the time she was forced into long-term care, she had let herself go to the point of weight loss and a major stroke.

    Here’s the thing. She was adamantly opposed to letting anyone in her house (including her kids), and resolutely wanted to die in her own home. While she would have been healthier with care provision, I do not believe she would have been happier. She was an extremely independent person. Since she was mentally competent, she had the legal right to make her own decisions. But we also came to realize that it is her life, not ours, and if she doesn’t value prolonging it or keeping herself healthy, that’s OK. And yes, that does mean that this last stage of her life is harder than it had to be (for all of us). But it was hers to choose.

    On the flip side of this, I have a child with disabilities who is quickly approaching adulthood. Helping her to attain every ounce of adult independence she can (mistakes and all) is a very important value for me. So maybe I value the importance of independence and free will a little more because of that.

  8. 3 days ago on Adam@Home

    Why bother? The dark roast forces will be back in full within the week. In fact, beyond sweeping or vacuuming the floor, it’s best to leave his office alone.

  9. 4 days ago on Arlo and Janis

    Gus’s health is a real concern, but badgering or manipulating to “make him” stay healthy is totally out of line. They should have a real conversation about how he will keep himself healthy this time and what kind of support he would value. It’s his life, after all. Yes, they have to deal with the consequences of his ill health, but it’s not like he has dementia.

  10. 4 days ago on Arlo and Janis

    Well, the daily beers and coffee with the guys that he mentioned probably aren’t heart-healthy. The other day Mary Lou said he drank and smoked too much, didn’t eat right or exercise, and didn’t keep track of his medications.

    So those are legitimate concerns and not just her being prissy. Still, it’s his life. I think he has the right to live the way he prefers, with the caveat that if he lands himself in the hospital again, he won’t be going back to the beach.