“I have lived with many zen masters, all of them cats” Eckhart Tolle
“Walking my cat named Dog”
To quote Bill Watterson : “There would be more civility in this world if people didn’t take it as an invitation to walk on you”.
There is NO humour with the use of corporate punishment in the comics. So often I have seen parents who physically punish their children, far more harsher than they would admit. It wasn’t so much what a child have done, as the parent’s anger, frustration, and along with it the entitlement, to take it out on their own flesh and blood. One or two had even ghoulishly bragged how hard they hit their kids. Some adults like to think the today’s children are so out of control, that is coming from their own self indulging, judgemental loathing and contempt. Some parents who complain their children are hyperactive, they themselves have certain issues they are in bad need to resolve within themselves instead of projecting it all upon their sons and daughters. Some others claimed it was all for their protection and own good, when in reality the young people are to live in a fearful and oppressed manner on their behalf. As for those who claimed they had been spanked and turned out fine are just fooling themselves. Along with it the callous begrudgement toward those who had been adversely affected, the close minded toward the alternative methods of discipline and the fact there are people who never had a hand laid upon them when they were young yet had done just as well. Not to mention, the way they want for anyone else to no other except be miserable as themselves. It’s one thing about so called tough love, but abuse and violence can not be seen as a part of norm when it comes to being in any relationship. Besides children are human, they do make mistakes and can’t be perfect all the time, just like grownups. It is the adults who are more capable of having control and they should know much better.
The same can also be said for being Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Hinduism, Wiccan, Pagan, and every other religion.
My parents were staunch believers of corporate punishment and were unsparing at it. My father was a no good drunk ( who is long dead and thank goodness for that), my mother a fascist co dependent who only cared to run the house and home as if a complete dictatorship. Their definition of me behaving properly was to be meek, mild and made as miserable. The home I grew up in, was nothing more than a mine field, no matter how careful I watched my step, I was still in danger of getting badly hit. No matter how well behaved I was, even more so than my pair of siblings put together, I was still singled out as the bad one of the family. They went as far as sending me to some greedy unethical psychologist who only cared to have gotten paid for telling them what they want to hear, so they can keep themselves convinced that I was, not themselves, who was being the problem. What good that came out of it all, at best nothing at all. When I took the online spiritual and self improvement program, those who were once alcoholics, drug addicts, had engaged in risky behaviour in order to make themselves feel alive, had been in violent relationships, etc., etc., they all had just about one thing in common: they had been abused as children in the name of corporate punishment.I have seen how parents physically punished their children. They as frequently had administered more severe than they would admit. Far more often than not, it wasn’t so much over what wrong the child had done, it’s the grown up’s own anger and frustration, and they just had to take it out on their flesh and blood, at even the slightest opportunity their young one was “out of line”. Some would claim how young people are out of control. They themselves must have been the real test of faith to their own parents. Those who claimed how they had been spanked when they were younger, and they were fine, are just fooling themselves. Along with it the desensitized attitude towards those who had adversely affected and the begrudgement towards those who do realize there are alternative equally effective forms of discipline. For some who complained their children are so hyperactive or being a problem, as it turned out they had certain issues of their own, of which they willfully projected at their child. A child’s ability to do good, to possess the conscience, to realize their actions and to take the responsibility could never be underestimated. There’s no need to instill them with intimidation and fear, nor along with having to live in a menial and submissive manner, and negotiate themselves around someone else’s might as right . After all, they are NOT stupid whipping under aged idiots who need to be put in their place and learn to stay in it. Otherwise we continue to curse ourselves to live in the world that is filled with strife, misery and corruption, taking what better future we do deserve.
That had explained Prince. RIP
It all begins with having the relationship with yourself
As always, grownups don’t bother to listen until after the fact.
That is the very philosophy of my life